If more romance is your need, your desire, then it is up to YOU to take the lead and make it happen.
If you think back to the beginning stages of a relationship, you will find that there was an abundance of one thing.
The thing that had you feeling as if you were floating on a fluffy pink cloud of happiness.
And that you were the luckiest person in the world.
- That thing is romance.
- The frequent date nights.
- The endless phone calls and text messages.
- The spontaneous trips and surprise gifts.
All of this shows how invested we are — how much we value the other person, their company, and the relationship.
As relationships progress, starry-eyed gazes gradually turn into reality-seeing gazes, and partners are able to see that the other brings just as many pains and challenges as they do pleasures and positives.
The infatuation phase passes, and the romance lessens.
Not because the connection between partners has become stale, but because the glue between them has gotten stronger — and they no longer have to work as hard to hold each other’s attention.
In working with couples, I’ve found that it is always the one partner (not both) that says, “I really want my partner to be more romantic with me.”
I then ask, “What do you perceive is romance?” and “What things have your partner done in the past that you thought was romantic?
Clients often mention surprise dates or having received flowers or special gifts from their partners — things that make them feel important.
They have an expectation that it is up to the partner to perform these acts of romance.
However, if YOU are the one that wishes for more romance, it isn’t up to your partner to make it happen.
It is up to YOU.
Of course, you can communicate to your partner (without criticising, blaming, or pointing fingers) that you would like to have more romance in the relationship.
But I encourage YOU to take action and bring more romance into your relationship.
If you want date nights, YOU make the arrangements.
If you want loving text messages, YOU start by sending the first one(s).
And, if you want to be surprised by your partner, YOU surprise him/her first.
You will soon see that what you give out will come back to you.
Learn more about bringing romance into your relationship by watching my recorded live stream here:
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