Tools for life: deal with emotional volatilities
WHY AM I HERE? I AM HERE TO LEARN TO LOVE
Everywhere beneath the world’s confusion there is an underlying order
Murray Gell-Mann- Physicist
Richard Feynman, considered by many as Einstein’s successor, believed that if all scientific knowledge was destroyed and if only one statement was passed on to the next generation, it should be the atomic hypothesis “that all things are made of atoms”. He said, “There is nothing that living things do that cannot be understood according to the laws of physics. To put it in other words he stated: “All things are made of atoms and everything that living things do can be understood in terms of the jigglings and wigglings of atoms.
To the man on the street who does not have the brain of Einstein or Feynman, this simply means that as an atom is made of equal parts of positives and negatives and this phenomenon keeps the atom together, every experience that we as human beings experience has “atomic” components. The “atomic” components of each of our experiences are every experience we as humans experience has equal amounts of positives and negatives, not more positives than negatives and also not more negatives than positives. The experience can only be because there are equal amounts of positives and negatives to the experience; otherwise, we will not be able to experience the experience or feel the feelings or have the perceptions.
We observe how there are opposites all around us; we notice how day changes into night, how summer is followed by winter, how we have tall and short people, old and young, happy and sad, challenges and support, pain and pleasure, awake and asleep. The list is endless. The moral of the story is everything has opposites, otherwise we will not know that it exists. Everything has duality; everything has one side and the opposite side. Without duality we will not know, experience or even exist! The smallest part of every human being is also an atom. So if an atom is equal parts positive and negative (duality), that means that every human being is also equal parts positive and negative (duality) and will therefore experience life as equally positive and negative.
The truth is that everything is in perfect balance and everybody will experience a perfect balance of:
• pain and pleasure;
• drawbacks and benefits;
• negatives and positives;
• losses and gains;
• challenges and support ;
• happy and sad
• blessings and stressing
So from the field of physics we can learn that:
• All events in the universe are balanced events.
• Every experience and every event has both positives and negatives sides equally.
• All energy is always conserved and nothing is ever missing
• “All paths lead to the same goal: to convey to others what we are”
Write down a memory you have of a rejection you experienced:
What were the benefits/blessings/positives/gains for you when this happened? Look for the benefits in your top 3 highest values as well as in the 7 areas of life (spiritual, mental, vocational, financial, family, social, physical.
What would be the drawbacks if this never happened and your fantasy of always receiving acceptance, happened? Look for the benefits in your top 3 highest values as well as in the 7 areas of life (spiritual, mental, vocational, financial, family, social, physical.
- STRESS AND ANXIETY
When did you experience stress and anxiety? Write down what happened:
Who supported you and was there for you? It can be a male, female, child, close or distant, virtual or present.
What benefits did you get from the stressful and anxious experience? Look for the benefits in your top 3 highest values as well as in the 7 areas of life (spiritual, mental, vocational, financial, family, social, physical.
- FEELING DOWN AND DEPRESSED
When did you feel down and depressed?
What high value and priority of you did you perceive got challenged and unsupported?
What did you gain from this experience? Look for the gains in your top 3 highest values as well as in the 7 areas of life (spiritual, mental, vocational, financial, family, social, physical.
What did you feel upbeat about in? Apply the law of synchronicity and synthesis.
Write down a time you felt negative. What were you negative about?
What did you feel equally positive about? Apply the law of duality.
What benefits did you get from feeling negative? Look for the benefits in your top 3 highest values as well as in the 7 areas of life (spiritual, mental, vocational, financial, family, social, physical.